To go along with Christ step by step and point by point in identical suffering of Roman crucifixion is not possible for any of us, and certainly is not intended by our Lord.
An earnest Christian woman long ago sought help from Henry Suso concerning her spiritual life. She had been imposing austerities upon herself in an effort to feel the sufferings that Christ had felt on the cross. Things were not going so well with her and Suso knew why.
The old saint wrote his spiritual daughter and reminded her that our Lord had not said, "If any man will come after me let him deny himself, and take up MY cross." He had said, "let him take up his cross...." There is a difference of only one small pronoun; but that difference is vast and important.
Crosses are all alike, but no two are identical. Never before nor since has there been a cross experience just like that endured by the Saviour. The whole dreadful work of dying which Christ suffered was something unique in the experience of mankind. It has to be so if the cross was to mean life for the world. The sin-bearing, the darkness, the rejection by the Father were agonies peculiar to the Person of the holy sacrifice. For anyone to claim that experience of Christ would be sacrilege.
Every cross was and is an instrument of death, but no man could die on the cross of another; hence Jesus said, "Let him....take up his cross, and follow me!"
And they that are Christ's have crucified the flesh with the affections and lusts. Galations 5:24.